Posted on May 24, 2012
MamaDrama
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Baby BusinessSo at the expense of giving Ms. Grumet another minute in the limelight, I had to comment of the Time Magazine cover and story. I’m not shocked, not even surprised, that a woman would breastfeed a child at 4. I’m also not surprised that Time Magazine would run the story or put her on the front page in a way clearly aimed to sell magazines and shock readers. I am however disappointed … both in the magazine and Dr. Sears.
The cover has raised more discussion about the decline of sales of magazines on the newsstands than about the benefits of breastfeeding. It has been heralded by the media as an example of print well done and even called a stroke of genius. Sadly, I think it is a continuing example of the media missing the mark and not giving us the stories and news we want. I want substance NOT drama. If I wanted drama … Time Magazine, I would pick up a copy of US Weekly.
The story also continues to pose women against women in the never ending competition women inflict on eachother and the ‘mom wars’. It has resulted in personal criticism against Grumet and her lifestyle choices and made those women who favour attachment parenting defensive of their choices while others are critical.
In all this I am also surprised to share in the opinion of an unlikely ally. Alyssa Milano tweeted at Time Magazine:
“You missed the mark! You’re supposed to be making it easier for breastfeeding moms. Your cover is exploitive & extreme.”
In the midst of the controversy and reaction from the public the real story that should have been the focus of the article has been lost. No one is talking about the benefits of breastfeeding.
It’s sad actually. Sad that our society will take anything and muck it up… Make it controversial and even a little dirty.
People in the media have gone as far as calling it disgusting. I know they are referring to nursing an older child and not breastfeeding generally BUT for young moms trying to figure out what they want to do and how this is not the message that helps them decide in favour of breastfeeding.
I nursed my son until he was about 14 months old. Months after he was born, I realized that I had become what I described as a bit of a breastfeeding bully. When asked my opinion by a woman working on my nails at a salon about whether she should breastfeed her newborn daughter I realized how much I sounded like the pro breastfeeding pamphlets. I started to convince her with the benefits to the baby, then health benefits for mom, bonding, weight loss, it’s easier than washing and boiling bottles and found myself even throwing in “and it’s free”. I also found that I was disappointed when she later told me that she would not be breastfeeding because her husband told her it’s O.K. not to.
Sadly, this focus on breastfeeding older children misses the real issue; that the majority of mothers in North America are not getting the support they need to breastfeed for even six months.
Why do I care? Because, I truly believe in all the benefits to breastfeeding including; the health, nutritional, immunologic, developmental, psychological, social, economic, and environmental ones.
So what is the scoop on breastfeeding? Here are some of the benefits I have found in research:
For baby, breast-fed infants:
Breast milk contains antibodies that are passed on from mother to baby and that help fend off and fight infections until their own immune systems become stronger. This protection cannot be duplicated by formula, which contains no human antibodies.
Benefits for Moms:
Also (in case you are not yet convinced):
I completely understand and acknowledge that not all moms have a choice. There are many reasons why woman cannot breastfeed including not producing enough milk, baby not latching on or having to return to work. I am not judging. All I am saying is if you can, do so. There are so many reasons for it and none that I can think of against it.
For many mothers and babies, breastfeeding goes smoothly from the beginning. For others, it takes a little time, some frustration and several attempts. Like anything new, breastfeeding takes practice AND this is normal. If you need help, ask the doctors and nurses while you are still in the hospital, your pediatrician, a friend, your mother, a lactation specialist (see the below link to the La Leche League) or a breastfeeding support group.
As for the question of how long? The Canadian and American Pediatric Associations, as well as the World Health Organization (WHO) recommend exclusive breastfeeding for up to 6 months of age. The WHO recommends continued breastfeeding along with appropriate complementary foods up to two years of age or beyond.
After that … I don’t know. Personally, it’s not for me and I think there may be reasons not to continue to breastfeed older children including health and dietary requirements. I’ll let Dr. Sears, and the ‘experts’ answer this one, if they should be so inclined as to weigh in at the opportune moment.
Here are some links that I found useful:
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/115/2/496.full
http://www.cps.ca/english/statements/n/breastfeedingmar05.htm
http://www.who.int/topics/breastfeeding/en/
http://www.caringforkids.cps.ca/handouts/breastfeeding
http://www.montereyherald.com/local/ci_20607881/breast-feeding-has-huge-benefits
